scrawls.

scrawls

still cheaper than therapy*

11.1.06

blank you. notes

information for Those of You About To Have Wedding Events: first, i have opinions on everything and advice on most of it. call for ideas or perspective. (M could probably also offer both of these, but i didn't figure i'd volunteer him.) also, i read The Antibride Guide and visited www.indiebride.com. i bought one issue of Modern Bride magazine. (yes, i limited it: exactly one.) i did not: read any other bridal magazines; utilize much of Theknot.com or any of Weddingchannel.com; or attend any bridal or trunk shows. i did have m's aunt helping me and she'd organized or helped organize 3 weddings each of the past 3 years - she did all the local legwork since the wedding was in indiana and i was not. Advice Number One for all of you: chill. you have found the person with whom you want to spend your life, and they happen to agree with you. This is the important thing. What kind of knot the groomsmen are putting in their ties is not the important thing.

Secondly: Thank you notes are hell to write. they are hell to write. it is well nigh impossible to write them and say nice things about whatever item or cash it was - for instance, the fondue set - without overdoing it. i'm not very good at saying nice things to begin with. Not a talent of mine. so some of the things we particularly like are things that we're having a hell of a time writing the damn notes for. and "once we identified it ..." is not an ideal way to begin a sentence in which you are trying to express gratitude, or even basic civility. But the not being good at saying - or, even more so, writing - nice things, combined with the PRESSURE of WEHAVETOGETTHISDONE, and neither of us working terribly well with this kind of it isn't a deadline ...

it's so tempting to fake really awful handwriting and just scratch the hell out of each card and make the address and the love and thanks and maybe the postmark the only barely readable parts so it's identifiable as a note and we don't have to actually write it, but i don't think we could quite get away with it now. i don't.

and it was just christmas and we had all these old christmas cards that were originally going to be our save the dates only they never quite made it that far so we had them, only ... yeah ... it feels weird sending out blank white cards with all that empty interior room ... and we could do The Christmas Letter but ... none of it is ... whatever.

scrawled @ 22:45