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26.5.05

WEDDING on saturday

is crazy. i's crazy. Both cars broke down on monday and we left on tuesday with a rental and that put me right over the edge of catastrophe, and now i'm done with it ALL and with me thinking i'm not crazy, i must be crazy now, right? isn't it when you think you're perfectly normal that you're fucking certifiable? anyway. Back circa june 8 ish. k - you also don't get six days in jamaica as a big prize at the end either - but then you get two little prizes at the end. Which are also good. ;) i'm not crazy, i'm zen. me and yao ming, we're like this. Serene. who else? jason alexander: serenityNOW. Like this.

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scrawled @ 16:40

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19.5.05

Crap i have a lot to do left (gee thanks, knot)

1-2 WEEKS
May 08, 2005 through May 21, 2005
Sign your caterer contract and send in a deposit.
Reserve photographer and/or videographer, decide on a package, sign contract, and send deposit.
Decide on a floral scheme, choose flowers, and negotiate prices with florist. Be sure to sign a contract outlining what you agreed upon.
Brides: Experiment with your beauty routine, self-tanners, and facial.
Talk to people you’d want to do special performances or readings as part of the ceremony.
Arrange for all insurance policies to include you and your future spouse: health, auto, homeowner's, and life insurance.
Arrange wedding-day transportation for you, your wedding party, and guests (as needed).
Arrange parking for the reception.
Begin working on vows, particularly if you're writing your own.
Order liquor, wine and/or champagne if they're not included in the catering contract.
Confirm reservations for out-of-town guests.
Arrange for a babysitter for the reception, if necessary.
Research local marriage license requirements.
Finalize vows.
Brides: Attend final wedding-gown fitting.
Do trial runs of hair and makeup; schedule wedding-day beauty appointments.
Finish and print ceremony programs.
Get marriage license and make appointments for blood tests (if necessary). Check when the license expires.
Work on a list of "must-play" (and "must-not play") songs for your DJ or band.
Have a follow-up meeting or phone call with the officiant to go over ceremony timing and details.
Confirm wedding-night and honeymoon reservations.
Discuss song list with ceremony musicians and agree on final choices.
Work out wedding day timing and details (who will get the bride there, where the wedding party will dress, etc) and draw up a schedule.
Brides: Pick up your gown.
Do paperwork for official documents if you are changing your name.
Call or email wedding party to relay critical info related to rehearsal and wedding (dates, times, directions, duties).
Get a head start on those thank-you notes (it will feel great to get a batch out before the wedding).
If you're having a receiving line, determine the order you want everyone to stand in.
Brides: Practice walking in your wedding shoes.
Call guests who haven't R.S.V.P.'d for the wedding and rehearsal dinner (it’s okay to do this, you need a final head count!).
Confirm head count, delivery time, and location with the cakemaker.
Determine any wedding day assignments for members of the wedding party, and make lists/info sheets as needed.
Give final head count to the caterer. Confirm set-up instructions and menu items.
Call location manager and make sure your vendors all have access to the site when they need it.
Prepare your toasts or thanks to friends and family (Grooms: need a hand?).
Plan any additional night-before activities with friends and/or attendants.
Grooms: Get your final haircut.
Confirm delivery locations, times, and final arrangement count with florist.
Touch base with your officiant and give him/her rehearsal details and wedding day schedule.
Grooms: Pick up your tux and try it on. (Don't wait until the day of to do this!)
Confirm all final payment amounts with your vendors.
Shop and pack for honeymoon.

DAY BEFORE
May 27, 2005
Rehearse the ceremony with officiant and wedding party.
Confirm all specific honeymoon travel plans (including transportation to airport, etc.).
Give announcements to your honor attendant to be mailed on the wedding day.
Brides: Pull together wedding gown, veil, shoes, stockings, and a last-minute emergency kit (aspirin, makeup, safety pins, mints, etc.).
Have fun and relax at your rehearsal dinner.
If your wedding is in the a.m., set your alarm and arrange for a backup.
Get some much-needed sleep -- if you can!
Drop off favors, guest book, and pen at the reception site.

DAY OF
Saturday, May 28, 2005
Set aside a private moment together to exchange gifts and a sweet congratulatory kiss (or two).
Confirm with people who you expect to give/lead toasts at the reception.
Take a moment to thank your parents and tell them you love them -- this is a sweet but sad day for them.
Relax, smile, and enjoy the day!

DAY AFTER
May 29, 2005
Mail gifts to your parents to thank them for their help and support.
Within two months of your wedding, set aside some romantic evenings to write that stack of thank-you notes.
Take gown and veil to be cleaned (or have someone do it for you). Make sure the cleaner is experienced in storing/preserving wedding gowns.
Arrange for a bridesmaid or mom to pick up your wedding dress and other personal belongings at the hotel after you depart.
Take any personal film to be developed. These will be the first photos available since professional proofs can take weeks.
Make sure all vendor bills have been paid in full.

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scrawled @ 17:38

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don't panic, yet.

for those of you that have read the hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy (preferably all five books of the trilogy, and here i'm just showing off), one might reccomend seeing the movie currently in theatres. They do a good job. Sam Rockwell is cute. and, Malkovich is in it. The more you know about the book/other movie/radio/ouvre of the whole thing, though, the better. Like i know why the bowl of petunias is thinking, Oh No, Not Again. and i recognize the theme from the other movie/radio event. and i can appreciate the perfect casting that is that guy from the office. And alan rickman. And the dolphins. And that guy that does the fiddly bits around the fijords. But. For those unlucky, sad people that may not have read the books yet, first, don't see the movie, because you won't get it. You poor illiterate thing, you. And second, read the fucking books, what are you, too good for em? and then see the movie.

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scrawled @ 14:45

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16.5.05

an attire clarification.

SL (who is, by the way, coming) called and wanted to know what to wear to the wedthing. he said, What if SL (and i believe he did refer to himself in the third person, but SL sure makes it work) wore shorts and a t-shirt - and i said, shorts might be a little informal. he said, what if SL wore jeans and a t-shirt and a sport coat (italics his, i'm sure) - and i said, that would probably work. (he made the jump from shorts, to pants and jacket, entirely on his own, though.) he said, what if SL wore a suit - and i said, that would probably work too; m is wearing one. and he said, so basically express myself, and i said, yeah. we've been invited (and are certainly going) to a party at which Cocktail Attire is Requested. i told this to a girl at work and she said, shockedly and a little nervous, ummm, yours isn't cocktail, is it? and i said, No. And this link is so. not. helpful. Neither is this one. What is a dressy fabric, please? and who .. what .. why have i never heard of this "evening purse" - what makes a purse evening? is black not enough? do there have to be sparkles? Was with a chica this weekend who liked the glitter. and that's fine. on her. Least helpful quote ever: "Dress as you would for any other social event held at the same hour in the same season." the hell?

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scrawled @ 15:20

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13.5.05

Not my drama, but fun to watch

the little bro is having drama with these people and it's kind of funny. I can keep tabs on it all from their assorted blogs. And they're showing *no* signs of actually reading each other, which i think is hilarious - they're all talking about each other nonstop. The things they might learn on the internet. (Oh the places you'll go.) And, B is such a little drama queen, kid, but i can see why you like him, and by such a little drama queen, i mean such a little drama queen. And M and i agree that L is smokin' hot. Little train-wreck soap-opera. I'm waiting for L to have a secret, insane evil twin (which she might - she goes shopping with somebody) and B to have an illegitimate child with it (because how would he know?). As long as my little bro isn't the one that ends up in the coma, i'm happy. Sorry, kid. i'm not trying to be mean to those involved. but B is being a drama queen, and without further information (how could i miss the season premiere?!?!) i'm pretty well convinced that whatever happened wasn't your fault. (damn scriptwriters.)

Oh, kid, and? Reverse psychology doesn't work on you. Hasn't for almost two decades.

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scrawled @ 14:48

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11.5.05

welcome to Busy Time

only, not. So as i usually post from work, and as i have now given my two weeks' notice, i don't really want to put any of this in the cookies on the work computer ... so rather less for a bit. And then after that, gone in indiana and jamaica. We'll see how it goes. So it's busy at work ... only i have nothing, but nothing, to do. Only i've given notice, so ... when i'm doing nothing but wedding stuff and random cookie-free websurf, or maybe reading a book, what are they gonna do, fire me? hah! FREEDOM!

My new job, for those interested, will be in a teratogen lab (that's birth-defect-studying) at the A&M Vet school. Neural tubes and stuff. Folic acid. Little malformed baby mice. Vitamins and whatnot. Much whatnot. Not entirely sure what's exactly up with it yet. But so. YAY!

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scrawled @ 18:50

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4.5.05

Pandora

i feel bad. An innocent bystander will walk by me or call or email or something and say, hi, how are you? and they're expecting a response on the order of, fine, and you? only that's not what comes out of my mouth when i open it. i have all this unfocused stress. There's nothing that needs to be done for the wedding i'm not doing. There's nothing i can do about making the people with the job go any faster on their paperwork. There's nothing i can do about whether or not we're going fucking canoeing, even. Only i have all this ... pressure. And i don't know where it's coming from. So when the innocent bystander says, hi liz, what's up? i open my mouth and Pandora's Box comes out. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse come out. It's like one of those evil-slinky-snake-in-a-can things. i'm that girl in the fairy tale spewing frogs and snakes and bugs (that fairy tale, the one with the angelic sister that every time she opens her mouth, rubies and music and butterflies come out, and where the one sister walks there are worms, and where the other sister walks there's gold). and i'm not even thinking about it.

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scrawled @ 20:32

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3.5.05

i have twenty-six days of singlehood. i'm already relieved by this. and i haven't been single-single for ages. really. so i don't know what the difference is going to be. i don't know if i'm having any showers or bachelorettes. i'm not sure matt is either. because what's the difference going to be? i make him dinner. he did my taxes. neither of us has been sleeping with anybody else. we're already three years into the mortgage. and really somewhere along the way we became married, really, so i don't know what service an actual wedding ceremony might provide except as an excuse to see all the people we can and celebrate a bit. since i am wholly against "Becoming one flesh" and have no intention of doing so. Things to consider planting, if we end up having a silent moment:

COLOSSIANS 3:12-14 - (i've never heard of colossians?) Put on then, ~~as God’s chosen ones,~~ holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as ~~the Lord has forgiven you~~ [you have been forgiven], so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
The Prophet by Kahlil Gilbran - ~~god bits removed~~ Together you shall be for evermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. ~~god bits removed~~ But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping, for only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
Walt Whitman is so cute - I give you my hand! I give you my love, more precious than money, I give you myself before preaching or law: Will you give me yourself? Will you come travel with me? Shall we stick by each other as long as we live?

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scrawled @ 20:46

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1.5.05

please note

There is a complete recap of t & b's wedding available under the Yahoo!fotos link at left, with extra photos in the existing albums of (1) Our Dogs and (2) Updated Progress on the Fireplace.

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scrawled @ 22:51

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