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4.9.04

Miss Manners on weddings

Miss Manners notes that people mistakenly do the following:

Deciding where to be married and planning a string of related events before determining if the couple's families can or will spend the amount of time and money they would have to in order to have the expected pleasure -- or perform the duty -- of attending a relative's wedding.
Finding the site for the reception and then dealing with its limitations when composing the guest list, rather than first figuring out who should be invited and finding a place that will accommodate them all.
Choosing the bridesmaids' dresses before hearing the bridesmaids' views about what will suit each of them and what each can afford, and telling them what parties to throw without being asked.
Selecting the wedding presents without waiting to see what the guests might care to give, and then letting the guests know what to buy without being asked.
Throughout all the planning, making decisions without having accumulated the money to pay for their results.

i think we're doing okay...

matt's family lives there; mine must have been expecting to have to travel as we don't live in any one place. Not really planning a "string of related events." people will have to stay in (and pay for) a hotel - but they knew that. That's what weddings are.
woodcraft camp is huge. Can easily accomodate us and we won't have to avoid inviting people because they wouldn't fit. check!
Haven't chosen bridesmaids' dresses yet. am i having bridesmaids? why, what do i need bridesmaids for? berheide wants to be one, though. i figure i could let him. and i bet he already owns a shirt with a collar. and he certainly can't plan any parties from colorado or wherever. Girls at work (if i still work here then) will probably spontaneously have one - they do that. We might throw one. whatever.
do we need presents? not really. Might register for "things that might come in handy," but think we'll say things like 'your presence is your present' and leave it at that.
Haven't, okay, accumulated enough money just yet. But i don't think ... if we can save for a roof in just a couple of months ... we'll make it. right?

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